3 years...


“Things do not get any easier, they just get different.”

I have found myself saying this statement a lot this month to my friends and family. I am still in awe that it has been three years. Sometimes it feels like it was yesterday and other times it feels like it never happened. My heart continues to be full knowing I was a part of his journey and the months leading to the end of his life on earth. There is nothing on this course I would ever change considering I learned so much from him. We cannot change the cards that are dealt but rather tighten our grip on them. You can loosen your fingers and let them drop or you can rearrange their order and your perception of them. John’s birthday, his passing and my birthday are all lumped within a two week span. For the rest of my life, I will continue to have these anniversaries and there is nothing that can be done to change the past. As time continues to go on in my life, new found details of my youth and adding beautiful souls around me, reality continues to evolve but will never be easy to wrap my head around no matter how optimistic I am. All in all, I am so happy where I stand today and even more so, where I will be in the coming weeks, months and years.

Thank you for your continued support and love each of you send the family. It is amazing to feel all your love, without boundaries or limitations.

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  1. MyRoseAmongThornsNovember 12, 2013 at 2:21 PM

    Wow, three years. I sincerely hope that you can use your journey to help bring strength to others!

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  2. ClaireNovember 12, 2013 at 3:45 PM

    yay for writing. love you. xoxo

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  3. KaraDecember 9, 2013 at 11:35 AM

    You have been through more pain and heartache than any one person should. I will always be impressed and uplifted by your courage and strength. Thank you for continuing to share your story.

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